What You Should Look For When He’s Texting, But He’s Not Texting You

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In any relationship, new or established, it is common to wonder, “who is he texting when he’s not texting me?”

We can become so entrenched in our phones and technology that it can become a strain on any relationship, especially if you suspect that he’s cheating on you.

There are some ways for you to know if he’s texting someone else, but make sure that you want to know before taking that next step.

If he feels like you don’t trust him or finds you trying to get information off of his phone, he may feel like you’ve invaded his privacy.

How Do You Know If He’s Texting Someone Else?

One of the easiest ways to know if your man is texting someone else is to straight up ask him. If he is not cheating or trying to hide something, the chances are that he will tell you.

Please do your best to keep these questions minimal, though. Otherwise, he might find you paranoid and annoying.

If asking him who he is texting is out of the question, then some signs can alert you that he might be spending his time texting another person.

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He Hides His Phone

When you are spending time together, and he has to walk out of the room to make a phone call or text, then there is a chance that he is texting or talking to someone, and he doesn’t want you to know.

There are times, however, when he may need to have a private conversation.

If he walks out of the room frequently, then you might have something to worry about, but if it rarely happens then, you shouldn’t look into it anymore.

He Sets Up A New Password or Changes His Password

If your man is trying to find a way to keep you from reading his text messages or seeing his call log, he might set up password protection on his phone.

If he already has a password and you know it, you may find that he changes it to hide things from you.

Other settings he could change to make text messages harder for you to read are the display settings.

Some phones allow users to preview part of the message when it comes in or choose only to see “text message” when the notification comes through.

Can Someone Read My Text Messages From Their Phone?

Yes, there are hackers and spyware programs that people can use to read your text messages from their phones.

These programs can not only allow the user to read your text messages, but they can also see your location history.

To protect yourself from hackers, do not click on any links included in messages from an unknown phone number.

People can use this information along with your name and phone number to do all sorts of things, including stealing your identity.

If you suspect that someone has installed spyware on your phone, you can try to remove it by performing a factory reset on your phone. This should work for both Apple iPhone and Android devices.

Can I Track My Boyfriend’s Phone Without Him Knowing?

There are ways for you to track your boyfriend’s phone without him knowing, but this is a slippery slope, and you will want to proceed with caution.

You can use programs to track his location and his text messages; however, this can be illegal where you are living, so it is best not to use these programs.

Other legal ways for you to track your boyfriend is to use an app that you mutually agree on. This can be helpful to both of you so that you can see how far he is from your date.

Most of the time, these apps will allow you to turn your location information off, so it’s not available all of the time.

Check his social media profiles. You can see where he is if he posts or tweets his location, and he tags the place he is at, or you might see where he is if he posts a picture. Dating apps also share when a person is or where they’ve been.

Keep an eye on the advertisements that pop up on his browser or his social media pages. If he’s getting adds that are tailored to his recent search history, you may notice ads that are for dating sites.

While you may not be able to prove that he is cheating on you based on these adds, it will give you some information about what he likes to search for.

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Can You See Who Someone Is Texting Based On Their Cell Carrier?

Cell carriers are different and have different features, but is it possible to tell who he is texting based on a particular carrier? If it is possible to see who someone is texting, what information can you get?


If you and your boyfriend are on the same Verizon account, you may be able to see whom he is texting if you are the account manager. If you are the account manager, you can find information like the call log and text log.

This will give you the number that has been called or texted, but will not provide you with the actual text messages.


AT&T is much like Verizon. In the account settings, the account holder can see the numbers that have been called or texted to.

Still, they will not be able to find what is in the actual text message or the name of the person on the other end of the line.


T-Mobile is the same as the two carriers above. They do not store text message data, but they are also able to show the number that has been texted or called as well as a date and time stamp.

The key to being able to search your statement and get these numbers is that you must both be on the same account, and you must be the primary person on the account.

If his name is the primary one, you may not be able to search your account and get the data you want.

If you know the phone number of the person who has been texting, there is a way to do a reverse search and find information. Performing a reverse search does not take much time, but the results are not always fruitful.

Sometimes the search will be able to find the name of the person who owns the number, and other times it cannot.

People think that they want to have every little detail of what’s going on with their partner and their phone, but they may not realize that there is a price to pay if they are caught.

It could break trust, cause the other person to feel violated, or be the cause of the breakup.

The best thing that people can do when they want to see who is texting or calling is to ask. If you suspect that your boyfriend is cheating on you there will be other signs to look out for, too.

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