When you get down on one knee, you want to know what to say. Fumbling an ill-thought-out proposal can turn your perfect moment into a nightmare.
Proposing to your girlfriend is one of the most important events in your life, so make it special. Don’t stress too much, though. All you have to do is make a plan, pick a time and place, and say the words you want to say more than anything else in the world.
Follow these steps, and they won’t only take you to the perfect proposal but the perfect proposal for you.
Choose your words wisely
First off, no one likes to be shocked. The mild surprise is fine, elation is good, but all-out shock brings out our animal instincts – fight, flee, or freeze.
Don’t just hit her with a proposal out of the blue. At the same time, this might work for some people—most of us like a little warning before being confronted with the major events in our lives.
To nail the marriage proposal, you want to prepare her using a combination of your words, the surroundings, and the atmosphere you’ve created. If you take some time to think things through, your proposal will go off without a hitch.
When it comes to the actual words to say when popping the question, there are a few things you can do to prepare her for what’s to come.
Telling an anecdote or story can show how deeply you feel for her. If you set the scene, it’s easier to get her thinking along the same lines as you. Think of some of the romantic things you’ve done during your relationship. What really gets your sparks flying?
Tell her she makes you better. Showing your commitment to her and your relationship helps remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place.
Tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life together. Create a picture of what this future might look like. If you promise her adventures, passion, laughter, and sunshine and rainbows, there’s no way she’ll say no.
Tell her you to love her. Don’t forget to mention the fact that you’ve never loved anyone so deeply and madly and gladly as you do her. Remember why people get married – because they love each other!
Try writing your thoughts down a few days before the big day. It can help to collect your thoughts. Think about what it was like when you first fell in love. Remember the butterflies in your stomach, and start writing from there.
Set the stage
Thinking about what you’re going to say, reflect upon what you’ll do. What are you going to do with your hands when you pop the question? Will you be holding out a ring?
Another thing you want to consider is matching the perfect words with the perfect place. Some people propose in front of Cinderella’s Castle at Disneyworld, while others do it over a candlelit dinner at her favorite restaurant.
Choosing a special place for both of you can help the sparks fly and help her say yes. Deciding on a place can make it easier to decide what to say. Maybe that’s where you first went on a date, or maybe where you decided to spend the rest of your life together.
Whatever the reason, making your proposal speech in the perfect location will maximize the romance and make the moment unforgettable.
Tell the truth
Ideally, you’ve thought about whether this is the right thing to do before you do it. I’m all for spontaneity, but a proposal is a serious business. A lifetime is a long time, and it’s a good idea to be sure.
So don’t try to be someone else. Don’t say your marriage proposal the way you saw on a rom-com and thought would be funny. Make your proposal deeply personal, and the two of you will cherish the moment.
Your heart’s going to be pumping anyway. The last thing you want to do is add extra stress or embarrassment by trying to do something you assume will impress her. Do it the way that feels good to you, and your confidence will shine through.
If they’re your one true love, they’ll love how you propose and the words you say because it’s you who’s saying them. You don’t have to be Brad Pitt or Idris Elba to get her to say yes. Be your best self, and don’t sell yourself short.
Last but not least, don’t be afraid to get emotional. Women like a guy who can tear up at appropriate moments; it shows you have a heart.
Asking your girlfriend to marry you is one of those moments. Don’t force them if that’s not your thing, but a tear or two isn’t unmanly.
The actual words to say
If you’re still unsure about what to say at your marriage proposal, then here’s a quick little script to start you off:
“”You’re the most beautiful woman in the world. Ever since we met, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you. You make me better. I want to have a family with you and grow old with you. I love you. Will you marry me?”
Chop and change it however you need to, but that should get you started. Use her name once or twice to add a touch of intimacy.
If you and your partners like surprises and spontaneity, you can always think outside of the (wedding ring) box.
Employ a friend or stranger to help you; have a drone fly the ring into your hand on top of a waterfall; “stumble” across the ring on your favorite hike.
Be wary, though. There are thousands of videos out there of marriage proposal failures. Getting too intricate or exciting can lead to calamity. The last thing you want is to mess up your magic moment.
Another way to say the speech is by doing it spontaneously. If planning isn’t your thing, carry a ring around with you for a while. When the time is right, ask the question.
Or you can get down on one knee and say the time-honored words, ‘Will you marry me?’ There’s nothing wrong with going the traditional route, as long as it’s perfect for you.
The most important thing you need to remember is that it’s your marriage proposal. You’re not doing it for friends or family or social media or in competition with anyone else.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What to say when proposing?
Make it personal and passionate. Above all, tell the truth. Put your best self forward, and don’t forget to say ‘Will you marry me?’
2. How should I propose to my girlfriend?
The best way to propose is to say something that comes from the heart and brings you together.
3. What should we give to a girl while proposing?
A ring. If not a ring, then your vow to be the best man you can be, to treat her like the queen she is, and to grow old alongside her.