You met the girl of your dreams, or so you think, but the only way to know if she is the one is by getting to know her, and, to do this, there are some things you can ask a girl you just met.
It can be exhilarating to meet new people, especially if it is a girl you are attracted to. But it can also be intimidating approaching a girl and starting up a conversation.
Luckily for you, we’re here to arm you with some questions to ask to get to know a girl you just met.
Continue reading to learn some fun and casual (and even some flirty) questions that will help you get to know the girl.
Who knows, you may find that you two have a lot in common – leading to a beautiful connection that may even spell romance in your future!
How Do I Start A Conversation With A Girl?
Knowing what to ask a girl to get to know her is only half the battle; you have to be confident enough actually to approach the girl and start talking.
Something scary because being rejected is never a nice feeling. But, hey, as they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? If you want the girl, you will have to go for it!
Top tip: Don’t try too hard and don’t pretend to be somebody you’re not. Girls will notice right away.
Listed below are 14 great conversation starters, but be warned, don’t try to remember them word for word; you will fail miserably when you try to recall the words – nerves can do that to a person.
So, read them and use them only as inspiration when talking to a girl you just met – you’re not at a recital.
Of course, before you can ask the girl anything, you will need to come within talking distance and start a conversation. This, in and of itself, is make-or-break territory.
Be sure to smile, say hello, and introduce yourself. Keep it simple; leave that cheesy pick-up lines for another time (or better yet, forget it completely).
After you nailed the introduction, use these questions to get things going or to fill any awkward silences.
- If you got the chance to go live on Mars with four people, you know, who would you choose?
- You have five days to explore either Disney World or New York City. What will you choose?
- Do you like sunrises or sunsets?
- What is the worst date you can remember being on?
- You’re only allowed to eat one pizza topping for the rest of your life. What will it be?
- Are you a cat or dog person?
- What would the perfect view out of your bedroom window be?
- On your bucket list, what is your number one goal?
- What is the worst job you’ve ever had?
- Tell me about your most favorite place you’ve ever been to?
- Where do you want to spend your last days on Earth?
- Do you like traveling? And if so, where do you want to go next?
- If you were a captain of a ship, what would your ship’s name be?
- You’ve just been elected as Earth’s queen. What is the first thing you will do?
36 Questions To Ask A Girl You Just Met
After using the above questions as conversation starters, you should have a nice groove going in talking to her. Hopefully, she has shown some interest and also asked you some fun questions.
Although these conversation starter questions give you a glimpse of the girl as a person, if you want to get to know her on a deeper level, you’ll have to change things up a little.
It is essential to ask the right questions when you meet someone; the information you gather will show you if you two are compatible at all. The sooner you know, the better.
The questions below range from silly to serious, but all of these questions will help you get to know the girl.
1. Where are you from?
Straightforward and somewhat dull, but it has become a tradition to ask someone you just met where they are from.
2. What do you do for a living?
This will give you some insight into what she is interested in and also if she is ambitious and independent.
3. What do you love about your job?
Who doesn’t like to complain about their job? Maybe you’ve stumbled onto one in a million people who love what they’re doing.
4. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
An important question to ask; if she’s a bookworm and you’re a party animal, things will most likely not work out between the two of you.
5. What is your dream?
Does she want to be the CEO of a big international company, or is it her dream to be a stay-at-home mom with three kids? You need to know to see if she and your goal can meet somewhere in the middle or not.
6. Do you have any brothers or sisters?
It’s nice to know how may in-laws you’ll have to deal with during the festive season.
7. Are you close to your parents?
Good to know if you’ll be getting involved in the family drama should you pursue her as your girlfriend and maybe marry her.
8. What is your favorite kind of food?
Is she a picky or adventurous eater?
9. What do you do for fun?
This answer will shed some light on your compatibility. For example, if you’re an adrenaline junkie who loves the outdoors, you’d want to pair up with someone who is a nature lover too.
10. What music do you like?
Will she go to rock concerts with you or drag you to operas instead?
11. Would you go, skydiving?
Her answer here will tell you much about her personality. People who are willing to live on the wild side of life are vastly different from those who prefer their couch and a good book.
12. What was your first impression of me?
A good question to ask because if she answers honestly, you’ll know if you have a chance with her or if you’re more likely to marry Mila Kunis.
13. What do you look for in a guy you want to date?
Change the wording up a bit and make it more personal. You don’t want to come across as if you’re asking because you want to see if you tick all her boxes. That will be seen as needy, and we all know how women feel about needy men.
14. What is the longest relationship you’ve been in?
Is she long-term material, or is she just looking for a hookup?
15. What is the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?
Take note! If things go further, you can use this information later to beat the previous guy by doing something even more romantic.
16. What do you do for fun in the city?
A great question to ask if you want to find out if she is outgoing or prefers to stay in. Will also show what she sees as fun.
17. Would you ever want to be famous?
The perfect question to catch any possible narcissistic tendencies and to see if she wants a lot of attention.
18. Who do you admire most?
She’ll probably say her mom or dad, but whatever she answers, don’t forget to ask her to explain why.
19. If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would you choose?
Let’s see how creative she is. Or is she more the sentimental type, choosing grandma and not say, Uhm, God?
20. Do you have a best friend?
If she has a lot of friends, she maybe won’t have enough time for you. However, having a lot of friends and a best friend is also a possibility.
So, probe a little deeper to find out if she is uber-popular with a big circle of friends she all considers her besties, or if she has a lot of acquaintances and only a few friends.
21. What are your hobbies?
What she likes to do in her spare time will give you a good peek at her personality.
22. Are you looking for a relationship?
Maybe not a question you want to ask right off the bat but very important nonetheless. A lot of times, she may only be looking for a hookup, and here you are searching for love…
23. If you are lucky enough to win the lottery, what would you do with the money?
Is she charitable or materialistic, and do her values match up with yours?
24. If you had three wishes, what would you wish for?
An excellent way to learn what she feels is missing from her life.
25. Do you have any pet peeves, and if so, what is your biggest one?
Use her answer to your advantage – avoid doing whatever she says bugs her.
26. What three things would you need when stranded on an island?
Her answer will show if she’s vain (mirror, lipstick, foundation), sensitive (her best friend or pet), or romantic (her soulmate).
27. Do you like reading?
If you like a well-read girl, her answer to this question will be very illuminating.
28. Do you believe in God?
One of the topics people say you should steer clear from – religion. We don’t suggest you jump into this one straight away, but it is something that you will have to find out from her.
If she’s an atheist and you believe in God, it may be a potential problem in the future.
29. How old are you?
You should NEVER ask a girl her age (unless you suspect she is underage). She will tell you in her own time.
30. What is one word your friends will use to describe you?
This will show what other people think of her as a person.
31. What would your last meal be?
Maybe a little too morbid to use just to find out what food she likes, but it may lead to a conversation about the death penalty – an excellent way to discover if you agree on the deeper matters of life.
32. What was your most embarrassing moment?
What you’re looking for here is her ability to laugh at herself. If a girl can laugh at herself, it shows how she handles challenges that she will experience throughout life.
33. What quote do you try to live by?
If her quote is similar to the one you try to live by, it may show your compatibility and signal the start of something special.
34. What’s the worst pick up line you’ve ever heard?
Her answers will most probably lead to a good giggle. This is a fun question and hopefully shows you that pick up lines in this day and age are way too cheesy ever to work.
35. What is romantic in your eyes?
What makes her feel all warm and fuzzy inside? Her answer to this question is one you’ll want to remember – you can use it to make her fall in love with you.
36. Where are we going on our first date?
A charming way to ask a girl you just met out on a date. You will surely get a coy smile as a reward for asking her out this way.
Okay, now that you know what questions to ask to learn more about a girl you just met, you have to keep in mind that it is about more than words – you have to focus on non-verbal cues too.
Body language and facial expressions will be a good indication if the girl is having a good time or if she just wants you to go away.
Look for open and inviting body language – crossed arms, scowling or looking down show you’re doing something wrong.
You want her to maintain eye contact while smiling almost non-stop. A light touch on her hand or shoulder while talking will also help you build intimacy.
What Should I Ask A Girl I Just Met Over Text?
What now? Texting girls is an entirely different ball game than chatting in person, and it can be very confusing.
You’ve probably heard of the 3-day rule at some or other point in time and now are doing your best not to text her until enough time has passed. But, we’re here to help you out of your misery – the time to text her is NOW.
A survey showed that 89% of girls want to be contacted in the first 48 hours. What are you waiting for?
Oh, yeah, you’re not sure what to talk about in your text. How about starting with: “Hey, it was super nice meeting you, [enter name – here’s hoping you can remember it].”
Now, after saying hello via text, you can start to talk about life in general or ask more pointed questions to learn more about the girl.
The great thing about texting girls is that it takes away the anxiety that comes with talking to a person’s face to face, but it does come with its challenges.
For one, you won’t be able to read her body language, and there is a very high possibility that something you or she said may end up being misconstrued.
But even with the challenges that come with texting, it gives you one extra opportunity to ask questions that will help you get to know the girl you’re interested in.
In the past, you’d have had to send a pigeon – can you imagine how frustrated you would get if delivering and replying to messages took so long after getting used to those little blue tick marks and instant replies? Even emails nowadays take too long!
Here are a few basic questions to ask a girl over text so that you can make the best of this extra opportunity you have thanks to technology.
Of course, remember to say hello first (like the example above) – you can’t just randomly start playing 21 questions.
Another tip: Start with random questions that have a large variety of answers, and take it from there.
What is the best thing that happened to you today?
This shows that you’re interested in what happened during her day. It will make her feel important to you. It is also one of those open types of questions, so you can use her answer to guide the talk.
What makes you laugh?
Just thinking about funny things will lift her mood if she maybe had a bad day. This is one of your questions she will enjoy answering as it is warm and positive.
What is your favorite place in the world?
Transport her away from her daily life with this question – even if only in her imagination. It’s also great if she mentions a place close-by, it will be the perfect place to meet her again.
Name your favorite movie of all time?
If she’s nostalgic, she’ll be transported back in time to when she was a kid and recall her favorite movies. Or, if she’s a movie buff, her answer may surprise you and lead a more complex conversation.
What is your biggest goal?
Perfect opportunity to talk about the similarities between you. Discussing such personal ambitions brings people together.
What is your favorite way to spend Saturdays?
When you ask a girl this, you can use the information to plan and find a time in the day when she is free and may want to meet up with you.
What were you like in school?
Finding out if she was popular in school or more of a loner may be an indication of how social her life is at the moment.
You just met, so you still have a lot to learn about this girl, but if she already has a full calendar, she may not have time just to take things to the next level.
What should I know about you but would never ask?
This can go in different directions; it leaves the conversation up to her, and depending on how comfortable she feels with you, she might get very personal or keep her answer superficial.
It’s best to ask this when you think she wants to get to know you better – she will probably ask you the same question.
If it is clear that you two both enjoy texting back and forth and like answering questions about life and love, you can flirt a little if you think the girl you just met would enjoy such attention. But, keep your provocative questions classy – you’re still texting, not sexting.
Here are some flirty questions to ask. Some of them are open to several interpretations – if the girl does not flirt back with her answer, don’t push with more flirtatious questions.
Remember, you just met, and maybe she is not entirely in love with the idea of flirting with a stranger – even if it is only answering some playful questions.
- When you look at a guy, what is the first thing you notice?
- If you could be invisible for a day, what would you do knowing that you can get away with it?
- Have you ever been caught doing something you weren’t supposed to?
- When was the last time you did something out of your comfort zone?
- If you had to choose between super strength or x-ray vision, what would you choose?
- Ever been in love with two people at the same time?
After reading this article, you are armed with enough questions to keep any conversation with a girl you just met going smoothly – be it in person or via text.
It’s a fact that asking the right questions at the right time can lead to many a beautiful thing in life, maybe even the love of a girl you just met.