3 Tips to Start a Conversation on Tinder Like a Pro

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Would you like to learn how to start conversations like a pro?

Maybe using an opener like this: “Can you keep a secret?”

Whatever the case, I understand you as when I started with online dating a long time ago, I also wanted the same.

That was really motivating for me however I always found it hard to express myself and to get the girls that I really wanted.

My Early Failures

My early failure with online dating had put me on the path of cold approaching that was, somehow, easier for me.

However I deeply knew that online dating was actually a better option than cold approaching sometimes.

Think about winter, when everybody’s home and doesn’t have many opportunities to meet girls out.

Or think about lockdown times where people are not allowed to socialize like before.

Linking those points, I understood that I had to take charge of my online dating skills or I would have suffered a decrease in the quality of my romantic life.

That pushed me on a journey that I wish I had taken before.

Today I want to share with you my best online dating tips so that you also can get higher quality girls and find the perfect ones for you.

Tip #1: Relate Personally & Authentically

Many men fail with online dating because they start relating to it in a way that’s detached and boring.

However, we know that the girls like being entertained and that they don’t like guys that make them count sheeps. 

That’s why such a conversation starter can be great.

Conversation Starter: “I feel we could play the good cop/bad cop on a date. Which character do you take?”

Many people will tell you that to be attractive to girls you just have to be yourself.

That’s not completely true.

In fact, what if your most authentic self is a disempowered self-loathing personality with low self-esteem?

Not sure that will attract the best quality of girls.

So what is actually the truth?

The truth is that to attract the girl you want, you must be your most authentic and empowered self.

That equals being your unfiltered one where you’re not afraid of expressing your true intentions and desires, wants and expectations of your relationship with any woman, whether she is a normal looking one or top model.

That will make you show up in a way that is powerful, not hidden from any filter and that will make you look stronger compared to all the other men out there that are afraid of expressing their true intent with the girls they like.

Have you ever thought why certain men are more powerful and charismatic than others? The reason lies in how they show up.

When you see the most successful man worldwide, you will see that they all share some common traits. One of those is not caring what other people think, another one is doing things directed by an inner core.

When women perceive that you are such a powerful man (also with online dating) they will immediately understand that you have something more to offer than the average one.

That’s when they will be attracted to you right away and you will not need to use many techniques and canned lines to attract them.

Tip #2: Play it Statistically

Many men get discouraged when they don’t get results through online dating.

The problem is that online dating is not just a random thing but it follows specific laws; the laws of seduction.

Indeed, if you abide by certain parameters with online dating, it will be almost guaranteed to succeed with it.

That’s what I learned with a lot of years of trial and error where I failed at attracting the girls I actually wanted.

That’s why I learned that I should’ve taken the statistical road by applying the 80/20 rule.

What does this mean?

Following the 80/20 rule for online dating means ensuring that you’re on the right path and on the side of mathematics.


The 80/20 rule tells us that 80% of effects are created by 20% of causes.

What does this imply in your online dating game?

If you are smart enough you will understand that only 20% of girls will create 80% of your online dating satisfaction.

As in that case, 20% of conversation starters will bring you 80% of results. Look at this example.

Conversation Starter: “If you can entertain me, you have a chance. If you can entertain my grandmother, marry me.”

That’s why focusing on those is actually the first thing you should do to get great results instead of focusing on attracting every girl on those platforms.

How can you do that? You will discover this in the next point.

Tip #3: Choose Your Target Carefully Beforehand

If you want to succeed with online dating you understand that you have to be precise on the kind of girls issue at the track because only a few of them actually create you 80% of satisfaction.

What kind of girls do you want to have in your life?

Once you understand the types of girls that you want to attract, write specific qualities that they must have and then mirror as much as possible of those qualities.

What does this mean?

It means that you attract who you are and not what you want, so if you want to attract certain kinds of girls the best thing you can do is to become as close as possible to their types.

  • What are their values?
  • What do they like in life?
  • What attitudes do they have towards things?

Once you understand those concepts it will be easier for you to select them strategically and specifically.

If you like kinky girls for example, that could be a great conversation starter. 

Conversation Starter: “I’m sure you have a good side and a bad side within you [Name], but not sure which one I should know first.”

That will allow you to compete with 95% of men worldwide and still win, because most of them don’t even know those concepts.


Online dating can be hacked.

The problem is that society is conditioning men to believe that only through techniques and canned lines we can attract girls online.

That’s why, today, my hope for you is to inspire you to apply the natural principles that will get you attracted to the right women, like you’re supposed to be. 

Having said that, I wish you great success in your online dating journey.

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